I know, 2 posts in one day! What's going on? Well, first, my kid is having school drama. (And I will apologize in advance for my rant I'm getting ready to go into) And when it affects her to the point of coming home in tears for several days...well, it has an effect on Mama too. I've tried to stay out of it, I mean, it's 2nd grade...what kind of drama can you have at 7 or 8 years old? Well, if you have a child around this age, you may already know the answer to that. It's girl drama. Mean girl drama specifically. Why is it that some kids just get their kicks out of hurting other people? I just don't get it. My middle daughter, who's 8, is a very kind-hearted, sweet-natured child. (She does not get it from me). For some reason, her
former friend, has decided that she does not want to be my daughter's friend anymore. (I think it has to do with a BOY- already!) But she couldn't just stop there, no, she has decided that if she is not going to be her friend, then no one else should be her friend either. Hence, the coming home in tears. Yesterday my daughter said she was down to 2 friends b/c this little girl is spreading lies about her. Well, hell. What's Mama Bear to do? Stay away and let this continue and hope she can handle it on her own? Talk to the teacher? School counselor? The mom? Well, since I know how important it is to let your children grow and mature and learn how to handle difficult situations on their own, I decided to .... text the mom of course. (You didn't really think I would stay out of it did you?!) Honestly, I did stay out of it for a while, this has been going on for almost 2 weeks now. So, I thought I would just make contact with the mom and see if she knew what was going on. She said she did not, but that she would find out. I haven't heard back from her - this was last night - but I'm hoping the torment of my child will end today. It's so hard to stand back and let your child be hurt. I don't know if I did the right thing by addressing it with the mother, but I figured I should start there and see if it could be resolved without bringing the teacher into it. We'll see. The hubs went to school and had lunch with our daughter today, so she was happy about that. She's having such a great year, I don't want one child to mess it up. And now, the mom will probably read this post and I'll be blacklisted in our small community :/ More than likely, the girls will be back to being friends by next week. Maybe I should delete this post? *sigh*
Let's have a drink shall we? I came across this in Martha Stewart Living (this month's issue I think). Since I LOVE basil and can not wait until I have my garden up and growing (hopefully), this caught my attention....
Basil French 75
Muddle 5 basil leaves with 1 t. superfine sugar in a shaker. Add 2 ounces gin, 1/2 ounce lemon juice, and ice. Shake and strain. Add ice and 4 ounces of Champagne. Makes 1.
mmmmm, sounds yummy to me! It's 5 o'clock somewhere right?!
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yuck to the drama. I hope it works out!
ReplyDeleteyum to that drink. I need one.
Honey, you're calmer than me. I have called out a child before for being mean. sorry, make that children, as I done it on more than one occasion. :0
ReplyDeleteI hear ya! my eldest girlie (1st grd) has had issues like this ... I 1st make sure she knows how amazing she is & loved at home ... build her confidence as much as possible ... I did call a mom in K after her getting off the bus a handful of times in tears ... the little girl came right over with mom & apologized ... I knelt down & had a little chat with miss bully myself ... no problems with her since ;)
ReplyDeleteBreaks my heart to think of a 2nd grader being tormented, but boy it sure does churn up some old thoughts, too. Good for you and let us know how the drink is...I'll be back to jot it down myself!
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I LOVE the new look of your blog!! It looks fantastic.
ReplyDeleteI really don't look forward to dealing with situations like this when I have kids. I hope I take a reasonable approach, like you, but I have a tendency to get really mad about things like this. I think Nick will have to tame me. I think texting, and having a drink (of course) was a good solution. I would probably do that too, because if I called I would probably go off on the mom (and that wouldn't be good). I hope she gets back to you and things get worked out. Give your daughter a big ol' hug from me (you know...the random blogger...she'll love it!).
2nd grade girl drama? That seems so early. I swear I dont think I was a little twit until middle school. I hope your daughter is ok and everything gets worked out.
ReplyDeleteThat drink looks awesome. I want one!
ReplyDeleteI think girls are definitely meaner than boys when it comes to things like this. My boys have not had any of this kind of drama one of my nieces was having such a hard time with a former friend that her mother moved her to another school! I hope it all blows over soon. It's hard seeing our little ones hurt.
i think you did the right thing. i teach high school and its amazing how teenagers treat each other. i think we should definitely start teaching in elementary school why bullying is bad bc obviously some parents aren't teaching their kids ... bc at 2nd grade you really have to think - well where did these kids learn it from? bc i dont think kids are just naturally mean to one another, at least not at that age!!
ReplyDeletehope it gets better!!!